Many many people have told me that I’m too young to settle. They have told me that I can “do better” than any man I am attracted to/date and am selling myself short. I have been told to raise my standards, that settling is a sign that I am insecure and unhappy with myself.
So now I refuse to settle. I’ve been with men who were missing key things that I wanted, be that in looks or personality, I’ve tried settling and those men are no better than the rest. So now I’m not settling, now I am refusing anything but “the one” and guess what? People are moaning at me!
Now I’m told that I’m not giving people a chance, that I shouldn’t be so picky, that I deserve to be alone because I know what I want. People now think that I’m arrogant for rejecting people, that I’m being demanding and think far too much of myself. I actually can’t win!
I don’t require specific hair colour or eye colour, I don’t care if you wear glasses or not but I refuse to marry someone if they have a tattoo or piercings, if they are lacking in confidence or intelligence, if they are insecure or vanilla. That’s my choice, that’s what I want, I’m not judging people who don’t meet those requirements but I wont be marrying them.
When I get married I will be spending every minute of my day looking after my husband, making his life easier, being the perfect wife for him so why shouldn’t I make sure that that man is perfect? That he deserves to be treated like that? I completely accept that I wont meet the requirements of a lot of men for various reasons and they have every right to those preferences, and so do I.
So I am choosing not to settle any more and you can think what you like but I deserve my idea of perfection.